What Women want

1. Men just aren't romantic enough

That's a notion that ironically has been generated by women themselves, and thereby they've hit the hammer on their own feet. They place the fairer sex on a strange pedestal, wrap them around in a suspicious aura and make them out to be a rather strange species that men need to be careful of, especially when they approach them.

However, the good thing is that it's not the truth. Studies suggest that when it comes to sex, women are no different from men. Healthy and robust sex, combined with a passionate display doesn't necessarily need be cloaked with guilt. It has been noted that women across age groups have an overwhelming desire for a great sex life.

Also, there's always been a clear-cut distinction between how men view sex vis--vis women. Think sex in terms of men and you think ravishing, animal sex, maybe at times taken straight out of that last porn movie DVD on the stands. But that's not true. For both men and women, the best sex is rather instinctive and spontaneous. And most times, it's nothing but the spontaneity that's perceived as aggression.

Then again, questions like 'Did you enjoy this?', 'Can I go ahead?' in bed may be seem like a sign of being a gentleman but hold on, there's absolutely no evidence that it earns you some brownie points. Many women say they would rather have the 'moves' as a surprise that leaves them wanting for more every time.

There's a difference between unwanted advances and healthy experimentation. The man can't have the perfect timing always. So help him understand you better and ask him to 'slow down' when needed.

2. Women never seem to have enough of foreplay 

If you are among the lot who throw their hands up in the air every time your woman complains of inadequate foreplay, or think you aren't spending enough time on foreplay, hear this out. Many women miss the quickie as much as men do. That sudden spurt of passion in the midst of nowhere can be as much fun for women as men. Many men stay away from this act assuming that women do not like it. Wrong.

And here's yet another shocker. Studies conduced in the West among men and women reaching their 30s revealed the stark contrasts as to what men and women think of foreplay. When on one hand, men confessed that the most satisfying aspect of getting intimate in bed was foreplay, for women it was the intercourse itself. While it does challenge the long held over emphasis on foreplay, especially among women, the reason is fairly logical. As men age, they need more stimulation to maintain their erection.

The bottomline is that women are as open to experimenting as men. So what are you waiting for, head for the bathroom, turn on the shower, and get working! Your sexual encounter need not be timed. The more unexpected it is, the more the fun.

3. Men hide emotions; women wear them on their sleeves

Open any women's magazine and the spate of agony aunt columns and the exuberant print space on how women feel can lead you to infer that women have no problems whatsoever, in telling the world how they feel. Women are seen as the constant harbinger of emotions, something they have no problems whatsoever to talk about. Relationships and emotions seem to be the ever ready topics of women. However, when it comes to sex, women may be even more inhibited about sharing their feelings as compared to men. While men may have it easy sharing their sexual fantasies with their partner, that may not be the case with women. And if you are wondering how to get your women to talk, well, the answer's simple. Just ask! Share your own thoughts and fantasies with her. Your raw vulnerability is bound to catch her off guard and perhaps offer an insight into her wild side you may have never seen before.